Bridgewater Grad Enjoys Starring on Reality Show
Amy Laurent on the new Bravo show, 'Miss Advised.'
She developed what she calls “quirkiness,” along with a desire to get to know all kinds of people, while wandering the halls as a student at Bridgewater-Raritan High School—and now Amy Laurent is taking those talents to television in a new Bravo reality show.
The show is called “Miss Advised,” and focuses on the private lives of relationship experts, including Laurent, who is one of three women at the heart of the show.
“It is its own unique genre,” she said. “This is not your run-of-the-mill matchmaking or dating show, been there, done that.”
“The crazy part about the whole concept for this show was when I learned Bravo was really putting the experts under the microscope in a sense to flip the table for the first time, which to me was unheard of,” she added.
The show, which is currently airing its first season on Mondays at 10 p.m. on Bravo, follows Laurent in New York City, Emily Morse in San Francisco and Julia Allison in Los Angeles, all relationship experts making their way through the dating pool.
Laurent said she was initially shocked by the concept.
“When producers in LA called me about being on a show where the camera was turned around and focused on the private lives of relationship experts, well, the very thought of it made me gasp for air,” she said.
But, Laurent said, she quickly changed her mind.
“One of the things my clients, or anyone for that matter, quickly learns about me after meeting me is [that] I’m very real,” she said.
Relationship experts and matchmakers, Laurent said, can talk about how perfect they are, but none of that is actually true.
“This was an opportunity to show folks that, yes, as one of the most successful matchmakers in the country, I have the resources and the know-how to find anyone true love if I’m working with you,” she said. “However, I also am confident enough in myself to say to you that I can admit I have these personal flaws, these insecurities I struggle with when it’s my own heart and feelings involved in dating.”
As for her role as a matchmaker, Laurent said, she actually had a different career in her 20s, and used three different matchmakers herself.
“I was baffled at the disappointing results,” she said. “I was adamant that, if I had my own service, I would do matchmaking a completely different way and would achieve great results.”
And in 2005, Laurent said, she quit her job to pursue a dream of creating a successful matchmaking service.
That desire to work with people and help others, Laurent said, started when she was a student in Bridgewater.
“I grew up there all my life, and that was where I started forming my quirkiness alongside a fun spirit in genuinely wanting to get to know and understand all kinds of people.”
Although she was a jock, Laurent said, she was friends with all different cliques throughout the high school, and was intrigued by people themselves.
“The nerds, goth, the theater kids, the most popular kids to the kids in the audio-visual club, everyone intrigued me,” she said.
As for the show itself, Laurent said they are about halfway through the season, and it has been an interesting experience, though not something she could ever have prepared for.
“It really is about throwing you in a pool and seeing how you fare, if you can swim,” she said.
Fortunately, Laurent said, she was comfortable on camera.
“I do have to say that for me personally, it only was a matter of days until I got comfortable with cameras,” she said. “After that, for the most part, I forgot about them, and it’s a very real experience once you get your legs going.”
Laurent said she could never have prepared for some of the experiences she had on the show, although she believe they have changed her for the better overall.
“They opened my eyes to some of the deepest personal insecurities that I realized I was avoiding for a very long time,” she said.
Among everything, Laurent said, was her realization that she is a workaholic.
“I discovered I have been a total workaholic living through my clients’ dating successes so I could avoid confronting my own self-esteem and dating fears,” she said. “Though my clients don’t complain about me still being a bonafide workaholic these days, many have told me they find me to be happier, and actually a handful of clients even offered to set me up with their friends.”
Laurent said she hasn’t taken anyone up on that, but she has gotten more clients as a result of the show.
“I’m flattered and overwhelmed by the amount of amazing single women who have approached my service after seeing this show,” she said. “It’s a very cool feeling to have attractive, rockstar females come up to me and say, ‘hey we think you’re cool and I want to work with you.’ It’s been an incredible experience so far.”
And aside from the show itself, Laurent has her thriving business, and her new book, “8 Weeks to Everlasting,” which is coming out on Aug. 7.
Laurent said that, for now, she is focusing on the show, and she understands that the most important thing for her to remember is to be herself.
“The most important thing I could ever tell someone going into a show like this is if it’s the single thing you remember to do, stay open,” she said. “Be real and own it.”
“If you’re trying to hide or avoid the ugliest parts about you, then you’re not being honest with yourself or the audience,” she added. “And they will know it.”
“Miss Advised” airs Mondays at 10 p.m., with the finale set to air Aug. 6.