Waitress, a Former Marine, Stiffed on Tip Because of 'Lifestyle'

Customer of Bridgewater's Gallop Asian Bistro leaves handwritten note saying, 'I don't agree with your lifestyle and how you live your life.'

Dayna Morales posted a copy of the receipt on the "Have a Gay Day" Facebook page showing the comments from a customer.
Dayna Morales posted a copy of the receipt on the "Have a Gay Day" Facebook page showing the comments from a customer.
A waitress at the Gallop Asian Bistro was shortchanged her tip on a $93 dinner tab Wednesday by a customer who claimed to disagree with her lifestyle.

Dayna Morales, described as an "androgynous lesbian" and former U.S. Marine on the Instinct Magazine website, has taken her case to the Internet.

Morales posted a copy of the charge receipt for the meal at the Route 202 restaurant showing the customer's handwritten message, "Sorry but I cannot tip because I don't agree with your lifestyle and how you live your life" on the "Have a Gay Day" Facebook page.

According to the post, Morales said she was offended and hurt by the woman's attitude and comments, noting she served in the Marines "to keep ignorant people like them free."

"Not only was it a family with two kids, but as I introduced myself and tell them my name is Dayna, the mom proceeds to look at me and say, 'Oh, I thought you were gonna say your name is Dan,'" Morales is quoted on the Instinct website. "Sorry lady but I don't agree with your lifestyle and the way you're raising your kids but you didn't see me throwing that in your face and giving you (bad) service."

Morales said if the woman didn't have two children with her, she may have responded differently.

Gallop Asian Bistro did not immediately respond to a request for comment Thursday, but the restaurant's owner verified the story and added his support for Morales on the restaurant's Facebook page.

"Dayna is one of our absolute best servers working here at Gallop," Byron Lapola wrote. "We as a team were deeply hurt by the events that transpired. I myself as the general manager took it personal as my team treats each other like a family.

"I made sure that Dayna was compensated for the tip, as for emotionally I wish there was much more I could do," he added. "One thing I can say is that people of that woman's kind business is not welcome here at Gallop, and I can assure you that if they decide to dine here again that they will be turned away."

Metoo November 14, 2013 at 06:42 PM
They should both get over themselves and get a life...
Stacey Friedlander November 14, 2013 at 06:59 PM
I am so disappointed to hear that this happened. What a horrible example to set as parents to their children. I eat at Gallop all the time and hope to tip Dayna a little extra next time my family and I are there to make up for what was done to her!
William VanNatta November 15, 2013 at 06:12 AM
This customer obviously is very ignorant. I believe this same waitress served me and my family and would be the last thing I would do in front of my children.
Kevin Storms November 15, 2013 at 09:09 AM
Dayna...please don't worry about the actions of one idiot. She is nothing more than a misguided coward. This woman obviously does not support "The Golden Rule" which is the first thing she should be teaching her kids. BTW...Thank You for your Service!!!
Mike November 15, 2013 at 01:22 PM
Assuming the story is true (and not a publicity stunt): So the homophobic customer was just fine with the server handling their plates, etc.? Really? Should have at least had the decency to go with another server or restaurant. As far as the reaction, I would have posted the unredacted receipt to let the public know not to share their personal lives/preferences with the 'phobe.
John M. November 16, 2013 at 12:17 PM
The customer had no qualms about speaking such bigotry in public so I think her name she be posted so we can directly share our views with her, Thank you, Dayna, for your service to our country. Semper Fi.
12345678 November 16, 2013 at 12:43 PM
After seeing pictures of this server on other sites, the "lifestyle" these parents disapproved of may have had more to do with her gaged ears and tattooed fingers than her being gay, imo.
Ed Zachary November 16, 2013 at 01:38 PM
What is this, the 50's?
Alex C November 16, 2013 at 10:02 PM
I think that people who have a problem with homosexuals based on religion need to read another passage in the Bible. "Let he who is without sin, cast the first stone." No don't get me wrong, I do not find homosexuality to be wrong. I don't find anything that doesn't hurt people to be wrong. I am just saying, people who don't like gay people, and blame that on religion, are ignorant, and illogical. Their own religion teaches them not to do what this woman did. So it's not religion, but stupidity that leads to this behavior. On the upside, this woman may have made this Marine miserable for one night, maybe into the next day. But that woman is likely miserable deep down, every day of her life.
. November 17, 2013 at 07:59 AM
It's really sad that people still feel this way. From the minute the woman said "I thought you were going to say your name was Dan", I would have refused to wait on her, but Dayna did the right thing. She did her job, no matter what the obstacles were. She may not have gotten a monetary tip, but she has since learned that there are people that stand behind her no matter what. She should come away from this experience a better person. Who knows one of those kids that were with that woman may also be gay!
nancy November 17, 2013 at 08:05 AM
Shame on this lady and the people who seem ok with homophobic behavior. The lady should have requested a different server if she is that big of a homophobe. I suspect she looks for justification for not tipping and does it frequently. She did a crappy thing, she should be called out on it.
I plead the 2nd tchk tchk November 17, 2013 at 08:40 AM
the waitress wrote it herself.
Artist/Engineer November 17, 2013 at 09:27 AM
I support Dayna and her exposition of this homophobic b#*&h. Unfortunately, many people feel their hatred is justified by their own prejudices and wacko religious beliefs. Such is the case in the cultural backwaters of our nation, even in what should be an enlightened state like New Jersey. Dayna's service in the Marines is testimony enough of her patriotism and unselfish motivation to defend ignorant people like this woman. The customer should be thankful for Dayna's service in the Marines and in the restaurant.
I plead the 2nd tchk tchk November 17, 2013 at 09:48 AM
look, this whole thing smells. If I am a customer, how do I know my server is gay? What if the server was not a good server and feel I should not tip the full amount, and the server happens to me gay. Is my receipt going to be posted on the internet. I feel this waitress is totally unprofessional and an attention seeker. I would never go to that restaurant. Anyone posting my documents on the internet is going to be in big trouble. I strongly expect she is the one that wrote that note, if she didn't she must have mentioned to the customer that she was gay, which is inappropriate to be talking peoples sex preferences at the dinner table. Shame on this waitress.
Artist/Engineer November 17, 2013 at 11:07 AM
@I plead the 2nd tchk tchk, Watch the video and other links to this incident and you will know the waitress was professional. Why is it so hard for you to imagine this actually happened? I personally know of even worse incidents involving bigots versus ones they prejudge. The customer was the first to throw a verbal insult punch and it is totally unjustified for her to treat Dayna the way she did. It is to Dayna's credit that she kept her cool after the bigot's comment. Dayna served her country as a MARINE. She deserves common decent respect, not bigoted insults. More power to her for publicizing this outrageous behavior on the part of the customer. The customer should be ashamed and should apologize.
Stacey Friedlander November 17, 2013 at 11:18 AM
Totally agree with @Artist/Engineer! There is no room in the world for such hatred and bigotry and I am so glad that there has been such overwhelming support for Dayna! (from as far as California and the UK!) The Manager there is well known, highly reputable and would not allow this incident to grow as it did if it wasn't a fact.
I plead the 2nd tchk tchk November 17, 2013 at 11:27 AM
I don't know what exactly occurred, but people have treated me badly simply because I am ugly. I am not excusing the customer for being a asz if he or she was. People are unfair for many reasons. that is life. what tipped the customer off that she was gay? What was it? As for her and others joining the military, that is great, but remember they don't do it for free. Military personnel are highly compensated with many benefits. They are by no means joining for free. There are enormous benefits from serving in the military, and we should not continue to treat them exceptionally after their service. It is an honorable thing to do, but to use it as a crutch or holding it over people for the rest of their lives is unacceptable behavior and not honorable. She should have just told the customer her feelings in a assertive way next time she sees them. To make this woman something special because she is "gay" and "military" giving her some sort of extra social points is ridiculous and wrong.
I plead the 2nd tchk tchk November 17, 2013 at 11:31 AM
@stacey. What is it you propose that we do to make people think differently about their prejudices? He certainly would allow it to grow, he probably would manufacture the whole incident. there are going to be more incidents manufactured like this. It is good for business.
Stacey Friedlander November 17, 2013 at 11:36 AM
I don't think it's about changing minds or forcing others to forget their convictions and more about demonstrating respect. How about teaching your children the old golden rule? If you have nothing nice to say, don't say it all?? Clearly this woman is on the wrong path in life and I feel badly for her children. In the same way you are strong in your conviction that this is all fabricated, Dayna was strong in her convictions and belief that she was wronged and what started as a venting session on a open Facebook page grew to something even bigger. If they wanted to really publicize this, they could've gone straight to the media themselves. The Bridgewater Patch and the Have a Gay Day sites were the ONLY sources of this original story. Knowing sources at both ABC and NBC, they confirmed that their reports were based on tracking of news of events being shared and tweeted about. They were not called directly about this incident and inquired solely on their own as interest to the public grew.
I plead the 2nd tchk tchk November 17, 2013 at 11:48 AM
The whole thing still stinks, the world is being told we are rascists by oprah, she is on tour around europe telling everyone that will listen to her what rascist nation we are because we don't like our black president because he is black. it has nothing to do with the fact he lies and he has been caught several times in lies. We are also telling the world we are a bunch of gun nuts that have no control over ourselves We are also telling the world that we are all a bunch of homophobes. We also tell the world how we constantly mistreat vets. This restaurant owner is cashing in on this and so is this waitress. I find the whole thing distasteful and a distraction to real problems this country faces.
Metoo November 17, 2013 at 02:14 PM
Hey, I plead the 2nd tchk tchk, That's the point I was intending to make in my original post. Seems to me that many people today see themselves as special or, as some sort of victim and both seem to have to scream it from the mountain top. Too my mind, very few people these days seem to be able to put one foot in front of the other and move on without looking for a boogieman.
Garwood Res November 17, 2013 at 02:40 PM
What does 'not agreeing with your lifestyle" have to do with not tipping? You tip on the service you already received! One thing has nothing to do with the other. I guess you can't fix ignorance.
Frank Santora November 17, 2013 at 02:48 PM
Do only "gay" people have rights? That customer, as a citizen has the right to her opinion just as any homosexual has the right of his/her choices. The Constitution of the United States protects ALL citizens from the abuse of GOVERNMENT, not from fellow citizens. If gays can be insulted by straight folks, then straight people can be insulted by gay lifestyle and/or behavior. It works both ways, otherwise any group could be targeted by society (or government) for harassment or extinction. The Jews in Germany in the 1930's, Non-Christians in Spain during the Inquisition, The Sunnis in some Islamic countries, etc. Is that what we want here? We have all been insulted by others in our lives. Big Deal, ignore it and get on with your life. Everyone, I SAID EVERYONE, has the right to their own opinion; including those who you may disagree with. This Political Correctness garbage has gotten out of hand. Calling someone a name or critizing their lifestyle is not a monumental crisis that should cause deep depression or heartbreak.
Mike November 17, 2013 at 02:57 PM
STILL wondering why customer was just fine with Dayna providing service and (yuck!) touching the plates with her food, but opted to stiff her. I wonder if the customer would walk out on the check if she found out the business owner was a lesbian?
Metoo November 17, 2013 at 03:27 PM
I never said what happened to her was ok, but if it happened to me, no one would have known. And chill out with the name calling, it's not necessary.
I plead the 2nd tchk tchk November 17, 2013 at 04:35 PM
I wish I could get tipped extra for my uglyness.
Metoo November 17, 2013 at 04:41 PM
What are you talking about? You referred to me as an ignoramus. A discussion can be had without that. Ya know, I'll let your post speak for itself...
Dean Stephenson November 18, 2013 at 12:08 PM
Is this "West Orange" Patch? ok just checking. why am I getting news from Bridgewater? Stop pushing your social interests, editor!!!


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